Lacking romance in our relationship, am I asking too much or being unrealistic? F20 & M20
Me (F20) and my DH (M20) have been married for a bit over a year and been together for 4 years. I feel like our relationship is seriously lacking romance, even after many deep conversations about this, about what he and I both want. I feel as though I'm wanting more and he is content. He is a great guy, he works and let's me stay home with our child, and also helps me when he is home. However, there isn't that much effort out into our intimate relationship. He plays video games and does basic "roommate" stuff and parental stuff. I put effort into planning dates and I do a lot of sweet things, whether it's baking or cooking his favorite food, surprises, and I remember things he mentions, but that same effort isn't coming from him. I've been thinking about leaving again I left him about 2 years ago for the same reason, however things were a little different, but now he doesn't really have an excuse to be romantic. He doesn't even hold my hand, or want to take pictures/family pictures. He is perfectly content being at home all day sitting in his chair. I don't know what to do from here, I've talked and talked about how I feel and ot gets better for awhile but then it goes right back to normal. I really need some advice...
TL;DR My husband doesn't put as much romantic effort into our relationship after constant conversations about the topic and I'm getting fed up and need advice.