Feeling guilty about my kids' lack of extracurricular activities.

Hey all. I'm the mom to four kids; 7.5, 6, 3, 15m. My husband works 12-hour shifts and I work 10-hour shifts; I'm a nurse at the kids' daycare/school so we have a very precarious schedule to make it all work.

Long story short, there is so little time for anything else that we just can't commit to anything during the week (or even really on the weekends) for the kids to participate in extracurricular activities and I feel awful about it.

My 3 year old does soccer and "fun bus" at daycare, so there's that, but my daughter was interested in girl scouts and we've managed to make it to TWO meetings because they're at 6pm and I get done with work at 5:30pm, so unless my husband isn't working that day, we just can't make it there. For him to be off on Thursdays, he'd have to work a weekend day, which then doesn't allow us to do anything as a family.

We take the kids to fun places on the weekends (like today, the older two are at the trampoline place) but... I just feel bad. They used to do swim lessons, we tried gymnastics, we tried karate, but there's just not enough time in the day, in the week, to participate in organized anything.

Honestly some weekends we all just veg at home and I feel guilty about that, too.

I don't know what I'm looking for...maybe some kind of validation? Suggestions? We already divide and conquer as much as we can when we can, but it's also challenging for one parent to watch all three kids at the same time so we end up doing two and two. I'm worried they're going to resent me or not develop passions or hobbies or feel fulfilled.

Thanks for reading.