Realistically why are you team Jelly?

Many of the other shippers think that we are team Jeremiah bc of his looks but i want to know your opinions. By realistically i want you guys to include logic and reasoning based on real life situations, Il start! I’ve been in a friendship ( friendship was a 9 yr friendship, so for context this up and down situation had been going since i was 10-11, im now 19, it stopped when i was 18) where the relationship was kind of like Belly and Conrad. We would have arguments and she would tear me down (kind of how Conrad insults Belly) It was a give and take friendship. She would make me feel great and then she would tear me down behind closed doors. It was “infinite” it was a never ending cycle. Got so bad that i had to leave ( i was at college at the time). It was a traumatic experience that caused me to spiral into depression and anxiety. Let’s say this, i’m a jeremiah in some aspects. I keep my feelings hidden (except from my mom) I’m always smiling (not as much now but) I would describe myself as a light and a ray of sunshine! So for me to go into depression and anxiety bc of that is very out of character for me. Just like Belly and Conrad, She made me doubt myself. As wells my ability in doing things. It was a toxic relationship just like how Belly and Conrad have right now.

I personally believe that Conrad needs therapy but even after that i don’t think that they should be endgame. Just bc someone is nice to you doesn’t mean they are a nice person. Conrad said in the fireplace flashback that he’s cold hearted for other people but not for Belly. That just rubbed me the wrong way bc that shows his personality, i don’t want to be with someone who makes fun of others bc they don’t get their way (the car scene after the brown kiss) yes i get he was hurting but still, doesn’t justify that.

Based on what i’ve learned about love and analyzing both relationships im Team Jelly and i feel like i would still be team Jelly after i read the books. With Jelly they have a connection that i feel is better than Bonrads only bc they understand each other. Conrad is 3 years older than them, i have nothing against older guys but come think of it, he deserves someone on his wave length, Belly can’t understand him and he deserves someone who can.

Belly and Jeremiah understand each other well, yes they have some blind spots but they work through them. They communicate better than Bonrad. Their fights end healthy whereas Bonrad, someone is always ending up hurt. I don’t know why the media is always trying to romanticize relationships like Bonrad. Just bc Conrad was belly’s first love DOESNT MEAN THEY SHOULD END UP TOGETHER! Like Steven said Belly is deep, Jeremiah understands that, He sees her for eh she is and what she CAN become!

Why throw all of that away for the person who caused you so much hurt in the first place?