It’s not that goodness/niceness isnt appreciated. Just stop being a doormat.

Too many people make one bad experience their whole personality, even when its a mild experience everyone goes through, like being lied to, taken for granted, heart break, etc. Thing is a genuinely good person doesnt let a couple of commonly bad experiences stop them from being good. There are plenty of people who appreciates a good person and surrounds themselves with good people. Thing is, you have to learn from your bad experiences to understand who to share your goodness with and who to ignore or give your ire to.

Now, lets address what’s nice and what’s not. If the ‘bad experience’ is not getting a reward for your good behavior, especially when the other person was never told to present payment, you’re not good nor nice. Keep in mind, a good person is intolerant of terrible people. A person who is hateful, but it has nothing to do with morals, IS NOT a good person. Being kind to a person just because you wanna fuck them is not real kindness either.

And being a doormat doesnt mean a good person either. A simp or pick me licking the boots of their crush/lover is not the same thing as a good person being charitable to a person in need. I have notice simps and pick me cunts demand you to respect people even when the other people are being disrespectful. Coddling people does not make you good/nice either.

A good person is allowed to be assertive, set boundaries, and be aggressive towards terrible people.