Anyone else recovering from the DeBeers brainwash?

No bc why did the DeBeers diamond campaign irrevocably alter the course of engagement ring culture and now anything that’s not a diamond is automatically seen as “lesser” or as an “imitation” of a diamond??? Politely: geez.

My BF proposed with a beautiful 2.7 ct rock and I immediately knew it wasn’t a mined diamond, because it would’ve cost $20K at least. I’d never wanted to wear evidence of an ecological crime on my finger, but I did assume it was lab.

Well, while looking for matching accessories on Etsy, I accidentally found the ring lol, and it turned out to be a moissy. My brain-washed self was like “it only cost THAT much?”

The same seller has the same exact ring in lab diamond format, and for weeks after finding out, I’d been obsessing over whether it was moissy or a lab, and feeling disappointed each time I confirmed it was moissy (by observing the double-refraction primarily).

I’m sorry to myself, to him, to everyone for this attitude. Please just put me on the pyre. That’s fine I accept my fate.

Now I’m deprogramming. It’s the most beautiful thing I own, and I can actually wear it in my daily life without extreme fear (except to the gym). I actually prefer smaller rocks, and would’ve loved a simple moissy solitaire. But I also appreciate that my fiancé went out of his way to go with the hidden halo, bejeweled band, etc, which would’ve cost bank otherwise. (Bank we admittedly don’t have)

Anyone else deprogramming?

FYI lab diamonds are totally fine, but moissy is great too. It’s not some “lesser,” “cheaper” imitation of a diamond, it’s a whole different gem. This sub has been very helpful to me