Hate my in laws, considering divorce

My husband and I have been married for 6 years now and had a good dynamic. We had a baby in the last year and can’t seem to make it work anymore. The baby’s 17 months now so we’re not even in that one year “grace period” anymore.

The issue is mainly regarding my relationship with his side of the family in particular. I find them so overwhelming and don’t enjoy spending a lot of time with them while he is extremely close to them. They are generally nice people but I find it hard to get along with them and to genuinely enjoy spending time with them.

As you can imagine, with an issue like this there are way too many layers to get into but to generalize it, they are extremely loud, overbearing and over involved in our lives. His mom also makes no effort into talking to me about anything besides giving me unsolicited “advice” literally all the time. It’s just not enjoyable for me to spend a lot of time with them and my husband is resenting me for that. We’ve been fighting about this topic since my baby was born and I am kinda over it at this point. We cannot go more than 2 days without an argument over this topic and resentment has build up on both sides now.

The most recent thing was an argument over Christmas travels. He wants us to plan a trip with his parents and I don’t want to. I’m willing to spend Xmas and nye celebrations with them but not spend a whole week travelling with them and this upset my husband. I just think we’re not a good fit cause this seems like a fundamental issue and not something anyone is willing to compromise on.