Husband refuses to go to wife's birthday dinner, should wife divorce him?

My 40th birthday is coming up in few days. I organised a family trip for 2 nights stay somewhere close to the beach.

I booked this restaurant for family dinner this morning. I picked this restaurant because I feel it would be nice to eat something we have never had as a family and I also know I would enjoy it. Entire family has no allergies and generally are not picky eaters.

My husband threw tantrums after got told I booked this restaurant without checking with him first. Now he is critical about price, about restaurants reviews(btw, 4.1 out 5 ratings is not bad in my opion), dress code and food menu, basically everything. TBH, the dinner would not cost more than $350, totally within our budget. We both make decent salaries and I never buy any luxury stuff.

Now he declared he is not going to this restaurant. Kids and I can go on ourselves.

I am super upset because this was supposed to be for my 40th birthday dinner that I wanted, and I wanted my family all to be there.

Anyway, I have asked the restaurant to change the number of guests to be 1 less, I am still going with my kids tonight.

But now I am questioning whether my husband actually loves me, whether this marriage has always just been him centric until this point that I just realised, whether I should end this marriage altogether.

I have not stopped crying and I am so upset.Should I divorce him? Need some advice!!

TLDR: husband refused to go to wife booked restaurant for her 40th birthday, wife is thinking about divorcing.

Edited for update: I originally also organised a family dinner with his parents in a couple of days and was going to get a birthday cake for myself and share with them, now I am thinking about cancelling all this together.

Although husband just apologised and I called him jerk etc. and he accepted he was a jerk, I hate the feeling that he upset me first and then apologised later and hoped I could just forgive him. He should not have upset me at the first place! I am still very mad.

Final update:

Thanks everyone for the wise words and support!! So much encouragement from you all that i figured out that this was not me being overreacting but it was him being ridiculous!

I had been empowered to have a serious conversation with my husband. I told him this would be the last time he ruined my happy moment. If there is another episode like this, I will leave him or in another word he will be kicked out from my life. Plus also told him heaps other stuff he needs to improve. He did not even know why he ruined my day but did say he has not been happy because of work stress lately.

Regardless that should not be the reason for him to ruin my day!I think he is definitely a narcissist. He is generally a good father though so I've decided to give him a last chance.