The tragic story of Dani's parents

To all of you who criticized Dani, I just wanted to remind you of Dani's traumatic past which probably also impacted her lot to be the way she is today, which btw is totally fine. Hopefully this helps you have more empathy.

“I used to live with my parents, um, but it didn’t last that long. It’s a sad story." Dani told Matt in season 2. According to what Sandy said in season 1, Dani grew up with her sister and her parents. Dani's dad was unemployed, so he stayed at home to take care of Dani and her sister while her mom was always working. Dani calls it a dysfunctional upbringing. Sandy expresses that she thinks Dani's upbringing is the reason she now wants to marry a rich business guy. At age 11, Dani found out she has autism and that's when her parents gave her away to the mom's sister Sandy and her husband Patrick. Dani's parents apparently got divorced in 2010 when Dani was 16. According to Dani's Facebook post from December 2015 her dad is now homeless. Dani writes: "I really wish my own father would have gotten a diagnosis, but he is now lost among the homeless." and added an article titled Autism's Lost Generation. I don't know how close her relationship is with her mom. If all of that isn't sad enough, get ready to bawl your eyes out because of this letter Dani wrote addressing her parents on Facebook 8 years ago:

If I could send a letter back in time to my parnets, when they first realized I was different.

Dear mom and dad,

Don't see me through my deficits, see me through my strength first! If you do that, everything else will eventually work itself out. You will see, some day you will stop being scared and start to be proud of me. Not because of why I can't do this or that, but because of what I can do. Despite of my diagnosis.

I can't imagine the disappointment, and/or the terror that you must of felt when I was first diagnosed or when you first realize I was different. I wish I could go back in time and comfort you.

Don't be ashamed or hide me from the world. The way I see it, I'm just fine. You see, I don't know any different. The only sadness I feel is when I see you are sad because of me. I wish I can tell you I will be just fine.

Just love me for who I am no matter the reason I am this way. I will always try and be all I can be. And that is all I can do.

Just love me the way I am.

Yours Truely,

-Dani Bowman

This honestly breaks my heart. So messed up. And Dani's just a sweetheart. Imagine your parents giving you away because you have autism – something that isn't your fault – and then being so sweet about it! And yes, of course we don't know all the circumstances and why it really happened. But it really is no wonder Dani so obsessively wants her date to have his shit together when her parents failed at it. And she has every right to have this desire! So please, for the love of god, enough with the Dani slander. She's been through enough already.

Luckily, Dani's Aunt Sandy and Patrick seem to be sooo awesome and kind. I'm so glad she can live with them. They appear to be very loving and supportive guardians. I also hope Dani's sister is doing okay wherever she is.