I'm so tired of people on tiktok bashing others for reading dark romance

I see this on tiktok mostly but I also saw it on the YA books sub recently about haunting adeline from someone who hadn't even read it

Like men watch porn and nobody says anything but when a woman wants to read some spice or dark romance, instantly we're porn addicts and disgusting? Ok what's the rule there?

As someone who reads cutesy YA romances and dark BDSM stuff, it gets so annoying. I have never commented on when someone's reading YA like "oh you're reading YA?" so why are they commenting on what I'm reading? Sometimes I don't want to read some long book with deep lore and world building and a 5 book slow burn (as much as I love it). Sometimes I'm tired and I just want to read a 100 paged book about people falling in love in the most fucked up situations possible.

I just hate booktok for putting out this idea that all dark romance readers promote rape. And books have trigger warnings. If someone doesn't like it, they shouldn't read.

I'm not a child so I don't have to read YA books. If I'm a grown ass adult I can read grown ass adult books.

Sorry rant over.