My husband just gave me “the talk” about my weight

EDIT: Ladies! Thank you so much, I have received so many lovely comments including ones that literally bring tears to my eyes. You’re all so great.

I did want to clarify how my husband couched the talk. It was very much “I’m concerned about how you’re eating” NOT “you need to lose weight”. I interpreted it that way (and I think that was a big part of what he was getting at tbh, but he never said anything about my weight). And he is right - I do snack way too much on chocolate, chips, junk food etc. He does do the majority of cooking for us, but he’s also a type 1 diabetic, so he doesn’t really snack at all unless he’s treating a blood sugar low because it’s too hard for him to dose his insulin with constant snacks. So I have been eating the meals he cooks me - which are LARGE - but also snacking all the time. Which is…a problem lol.

I’m definitely going to have a further chat with him about helping me to eat healthier meals, and how to remove some stress from my life, which I am sure he will be supportive of. But I’ve also learnt a lot from your comments, particularly the concept of food noise. I honestly thought it was NORMAL to be constantly thinking about food and what I could eat next and how hungry I was. I’ve got a lot of changes to make and a few appointments to book to get stuff checked out.

Thanks everyone for all your help, my inbox has honestly exploded! If I haven’t been able to reply to your comment, please know that I have read it and I really appreciate everyone taking time out of their days to help me ❤️❤️❤️

Basically said it’s time for me to go on a diet. He didn’t do it rudely and couched it all in concerns for my health. All the things you’re meant to do when trying to encourage your spouse to lose weight. So this isn’t a criticism of how he approached it.

But how the fuck am I meant to lose weight? I need help. I’m not obese but I am overweight (177cm, 90kg). ALL I DO is think about food. I’m also the main breadwinner (husband also works full time but I earn 75% of our household income and work huge hours to do so). We also have two kids under 5.

I go to Pilates once a week and walk 10,000 steps a day. I know I should do more exercise but I only have so many hours in a day. I literally don’t even have time right now to sit down and rest for an hour, I don’t know how I could fit in more exercise. I will try to turn some of my lunchtime walks into runs but my big breasted women will understand how unpleasant running can be when you have GG boobs.

All that is to say I don’t think this is an exercise thing. I eat too much. I’m always hungry. If I’m not eating, I’m think about food. How do I stop this?! I have terrible willpower but if anybody has strategies for overcoming this, please help me. Thanks!

(Also if you have any tips for overcoming the huge knock to my confidence this conversation has had, that would also be appreciated. I just feel so ugly and unattractive now. Don’t want to have sex, don’t want to be naked in front of him atm etc)